2015 brought me many new gifts: a different career, my first trip out of the country, a pregnancy, and my first child.
My daughter was born the day before my birthday. It was a wild 25-hour journey where my body was challenged more than ever before- but I'll save that story for another day.
Until then I wanted to get my focus for the new year out there, in hopes it will inspire someone else who may need to hear the same mantra I'm repeating to myself over and over:
Let it be.
I haven't been a mother for long, but I already know it is and will be the biggest challenge, triumph, and piece of my life. With that comes a new mindset, and some old stubborn ways that need to change.
Here's what I plan on focusing on in 2016:
- Accept what I cannot control.
This is my biggest challenge. I may have carried my daughter for 9 months and am currently raising her, but this is one thing she can teach me. I will do my best this year to overcome my biggest insecurities and surrender myself to the unpredictable and thrilling nature of parenthood.
- Be more optimistic, less urgent.
Plans are wonderful. Goals are fantastic. However, the panic of arriving 5 minutes late somewhere or the fear I harbor of not being my dream weight by June help no one. I will set helpful, realistic goals to make myself happy, not frantic.
- See beautiful moments and recognize them for what they are.
I will stop, smile, and breathe. I will drink in the sights, sounds, and offerings of this year and appreciate them as long as I can. I want to hold on to good times for myself and my daughter, seeing I am no longer just remembering these moments for myself.
- Know that difficult times are temporary.
Sometimes discomfort offers a teachable moment, other times it just needs to be seen as a phase that will end.
- Be realistic of my new role and love the woman I'm becoming.
Instead of feeling guilty about what I'm not doing and potentially losing, I will remind myself to be proud of the love I am giving and the work I am putting into my new job as a mother.
Happy New Year. May your 2016 be dazzling.
Stay at Peace,